I have an invitation for you…

It’s so intimate…like a whisper…or the scent of a rose…subtle yet powerful.

But first, I want you to ask yourself when was the last time you did something for someone THAT WASN’T RIGHT FOR YOU?

On some level you know you SACRIFICED yourself…

For women, this is almost second nature…we don’t even realize how much we do this, and O how it robs us of our JUICEY lifeforce!

When we have small children, it’s practically inevitable unless we have alot of support…the baby ‘s needs come first.

But early motherhood is not the only time in our lives we as women tend to put the needs of others BEFORE OUR OWN WELL-BEING.

I was recently reflecting on times in my life I literally GAVE MORE THAN I COULD AFFORD to help someone else, even at my own peril.

Suze Orman the money guru says:

“True Genorosity doesn’t hurt- real giving empowers both the receiver and the giver.”

There’s another beautiful quote I love that speaks to this:

GIVE FROM YOUR SAUCER, NOT FROM YOUR CUP

It sounds easy enough, but do you actually allow yourself to be FILLED UP TO OVERFLOWING so you can give from your overflow?

Or do you just keep the bare minimum in reserve and even dip into that whenever someone else needs something from you?

Do you feel GUILT, FEAR, SHAME about saying NO…?

You realise that saying no to someone else is really saying YES TO YOU…but are you able to do this without feeling bad, and in fact feeling more empowered?

My husband and I are both high-achievers and so naturally our boys are as well.

However, there is a SPECTACULAR difference in the FEELING TONE, the ENERGY of how our kids do what they do from how my husabnd and I find ourselves doing things often in the spirit of HAVE TO, WORRY, FEAR, OVERWHELM, etc

They laugh from morning to night, they move from an instinctive force within them that navigates their day based on what feels GOOD to them so they don’t feel RESENTFUL or OVERWHELMED regardless of CHORES or HOMEWORK or their PAPER ROUTE or PROJECTS or STUDYING or COMMUNITY SERVICE- they do it with FUN, LAUGHTER, and PLEASURE.

No depletion energy…It’s so INSPIRING to see others live this way!

They have no problem saying “No” or ‘That doesn’t work for me” or “I don’t want to” or ‘Yes, I want that’ etc. Their energy is current and clear.

Ahhh, the joy and freedom of childhood you might be thinking..! But this gorgeous permission to advocate for our own Truth, to have strong SELF-PRESERVATION doesn’t have to stop at 18 😉

Yet how often have we been afraid as women to VOICE OUR TRUTH about what we want or don’t want?

I am famous for OVER-GIVING, OVER-DOING…anyone relate? lol

And each time I honestly feel great about being able to give and it is with an open heart. But the Truth is, a part of me isn’t taking care of myself and is being overly responsible for others.

Ahhh, the dance of the Slavegirl and the Empress continues still!  I’m learning and evolving right along with you 😉

OVERgiving/OVERdoing doesn’t serve ANYONE…it sends out a message to the Universe of ‘I’m fine…I don’t need…I can function in deficit, no problem…nevermind me…etc’ and it is DISEMPOWERING to all concerned.

And then we wonder why we aren’t attracting MORE OF WHAT WE WANT! We could be allowing ourselves SO MUCH MORE…but we can only ever ATTRACT FROM THE LEVEL WE ARE.

DEPLETION and SACRIFICE only begets more of the same…I KNOW you have so much beauty and talent and rich gifts that you so want to share…buuut everyone loses out if you aren’t in alignment with your Truth.

So, my Invitation to you is to allow yourself to CHECK IN and give yourself permission to sensually feel into it before automatically saying yes or no this week.

Here are 7 Affirmations to assist you:

7 Sensual Vows to keep you connected to your Truth and in you flow as a woman

1. REFLECT- I check in with myself often connected to my Truth before saying Yes or No
2. RECONNECT- I ground in my body through Movement and Nature
3. RELEASE- I let go of what no longer serves me to make room for magic and miracles
4. RECEIVE- I receive before I give to keep my well filled to overflowing
5. RELAX- I embody my Essence with poise through Self Care and Self Trust
6. RENEW- I am committed to what nourishes my body and dreams
7. REVEL- I make my pleasure a priority and celebrate my love affair with life

When you are aligned and all your rivers are flowing you will feel relaxed, open, trusting, supported, radiant, healthy, beautiful, inspired, composed and clear.

From that place self-sacrifice just doesn’t feel good or natural anymore.

Choose ONE to focus on and write it down in your journal and reflect on how it could assist you to STOP SELF SACRIFICE by re-connecting to your deeper Truth.

with beauty,

ps One inspiring woman’s story:

Shakaya, Butterfly, I have been speechless since I have been back, so deep has the transformation been that I could not put it into words. The VIP day with you was a an absolute initiation, a rite of passage. I have transformed from ordinary living to exquisite, regal, sensual, radiant living.  I am a queen, a regal goddess, a creative butterfly. It started last winter as I watched your videos and wept.  There was something in my core that resonated with your message of exquisite self care and natural beauty. I am a very spiritual woman, a fiercely devoted mother but as I was watched the videos I was exhausted from adrenal fatigue, my digestion shot, and my moods all over the place.  Self beauty, self appreciation was the furthest thing from my consciousness. Somehow that didn’t fit in with being spiritual or being a mom. Something clicked that moment as I realized that exquisite self care and natural beauty were indeed sacred spiritual practices. I was magnetized by Shakaya’s beauty.  Her unique, glorious essence expressed to the fullest extend, was an illumination of the divine!  Just as a glorious sunset is. On some level I realized that the embodiment and expression of my unique beauty and the practice of ESC is an  acknowledgement to the Creator and a prayer of thanksgiving for the glorious vessel that I have been given.  This vessel is so perfectly and intricately designed for my unique mission on this planet. I made a decision to somehow embody this but the path wasn’t clear.  6-8 months later I am reading about VIP days and I am ready so I think…  There is a mixture of whim and deep wisdom that leads me to fill out the inquiry form.  I want so badly to follow the force of nature leading me to this glorious destination. Somehow I know that this is what I need to do and I will do whatever it takes emotionally, physically, and financially to make it happen.  I am going to invest to most important transformation of my life.  I am going to embody the glorious vessel.  I am going to radiate beauty, regality, sensuality and it will be my spiritual practice because I know it makes me feel so alive, so grateful, so connected to source. I drove 600 miles after a hurricane to see Shakaya.  My mind told me I was a crazy lady but my heart wisdom knew different.  Just being in her regal presence up leveled  my energy, my presence in deep and unspeakable ways. My drama, my plain jane mentality, my victim consciousness were literally dissolving right at her presence.  I had such a strong resolve and a deep commitment to change and this was met with her highest intention to be my guide. The work was deep and the initiation was completed with an ice cold dip in the nearby lake.  It was night time and dark and I felt like I was entering in the deep dark womb of the mother, the shakina, the all powerful One.  In this water I was cleansing my old stories and deeply receiving the new upgrades. I can say now that I feel like a earth empress priestess.  I am so grateful to have gone thru the glorious rites of passage.  I can own my divinity. Thank you Shakaya, goddess, sister priestess.  I am eternally grateful. Kristen

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