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when your life falls apart/isn’t working

Life experience can be so difficult at times…

Whether we are going through a Personal or Global crisis it’s vital to have a solid ‘lifeline’.

To not be swept up in internal storms and hurricanes of fear and loss and shame and blame.

How do YOU find the ‘calm in the storm’ and navigate the wild winds of change that blow into your life??

How to steer the often scary and painful path of your Heroine’s Journey?

Here are my best tips on how to not only survive but THRIVE:

  1. ADMIT YOU ARE IN CRISIS. Don’t hide. This 1st step is often the most difficult for ‘strong women’ who don’t want to appear weak or out of control, but the truth is that life is UNCERTAIN and we all feel insecure and scared at times. We are taught to be stoic and stuff our rage and our passion! We are taught to repress and ‘look good’ and this truly makes us immobilized. But when we share our deepest truest thoughts and feelings no matter how messy, we put ourselves in the hands of the Divine. It takes courage to be vulnerable, but that raw authenticity is so magnetic… people’s hearts open and they want to help! Share what you are going through honestly with people you trust. Transparency is transformative.
  2. ALLOW IN SUPPORT. Again, not always easy or comfortable for women who have always been there for everyone else and don’t want to be a burden. But when we create a wall around ourself of invincibility, that prevents life and love in when we need it the most. Everyone needs to feel supported especially during crisis and I believe we are not meant to ‘go it alone’ but to help one another. We further victimize ourselves when we feel shame and don’t allow the events in our life to crack us open so the Light can flood in. 
  3. CREATE AN AFFIRMATION. This may sound trite or superficial but there have been times in my darkest hours and those of my client’s when it was all we had to hold onto! For example, highly sensitive, spiritual, heart-centered, creative women often struggle with feelings of persecution and not being safe. A favourite affirmation is ‘I AM SAFE. I AM DIVINELY PROTECTED.’ Or ‘I AM WORTHY. IT IS SAFE TO BE ME. I AM LOVED.’ Or ‘I WILL GET THROUGH THIS. I ASK FOR AND RECEIVE HELP. I AM GUIDED.’ It can be very simple and primal- just go with what feels good and right for you!
  4. HAVE SACRED SPACE FOR REFLECTION. Whenever you can it is so vital to spend time in the sanctuary of your own heart and Spirit to hear what is essential for you to hear. To be able to receive your truth and a Higher guidance that isn’t cluttered with the chaos of confusion and emotion. I personally keep a journal and spend time in silence, alone to hone my intuition and to stay centered. It always amazes me how much GRACE unfolds when we’re able to be available for it. We all have the answers but they are hidden within us.
  5. RECEIVE YOUR RECLAMATION. Often when we are quiet and can see things from a higher ground, our perspective can shift dramatically from feelings of VICTIMIZATION to EMPOWERMENT. This is when we can begin the deeper healing process of steering our way through the landmines of SHAME and/or BLAME  into RECLAIM. This step is a total transformation because we begin to feel gratitude amidst the rubble. It’s like kintsugi – the Japanese art of “repairing with gold”. To treating rupture and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise. Sometimes bowls would be broken purposely in order to enhance their value through the repair process. We are not broken. We are MORE of who we are meant to be.
  6. CREATE YOUR REINVENTION. This is an exciting step! We have suffered loss and we have been open with our pain and grief, receiving support, going through a deep transformation of healing and redemption. Now it’s time to step into a new part of ourselves that has been birthing through this Heroine’s Journey. That part of us that can now blossom not in spite of what we have been through but because of it! I have known clients and friends who have cut all their hair off, changed careers, sold everything and got a new wardrobe,  lost weight, cleansed and healed chronic health issues, divorced or remarried, changed locations and travelled or finally came HOME to themselves… and found peace and fulfillment like never before. The external conditions are of the past like the wake of a boat and real transformation always comes from within.


These steps may seem superficial next to such devastation but have truly been a lifeline for me (even during homelessness, break-ups, financial loss, illness and long-term suicidal depression) and many of my clients who feel the URGENCY of their life… of becoming FREE and FINALLY living a life that is all YOURS. No matter what.

I am being guided to open space in my calendar to connect with any women who feel lost, alone, scared and are in the ‘eye of the storm’ in their life and truly desire that rock solid foundation of living your truth and reclaiming your power.

Reach out to to schedule some time with me to connect and see if mentorship is right for you.

Remember, you deserve to be supported and if you don’t have the sisterhood and family and structures for safety and success in place already, I am here, and if not me, reach out where you feel guided and please get the support you require!

And in the comments below share your practices of cultivating peace in the storm and where in your life more of your truth and freedom and power is calling.

with LOVE and glowing guidance,

For everyone affected by Irma (my husband has family in florida) and the recent floods and storms and quakes of Mother Earth, we send our healing waves of prayers, love and financial resources and hold you in the Light on this inauspicious day/anniversary of Sept 11 and always…


if you need it, you’re not ready to receive it

This is personal… so skip it if you like, but it’s also PRINCIPLE.

And one of the most surprising and even shocking lessons of my life.


All my life I had a deep longing in me …

I grew up never knowing my father and then at 16 my single mother passed away suddenly…

Our mother made of us feels so loved that I didn’t really notice not having a father.

But after her passing I would lay in bed wondering and praying and obsessing over meeting him!

I hired a private investigator to find my father but all I had to go on was his Italian heritage and his name-

and it was as common as Joe Smith.

I ran out of money fast and had to stop looking for him…


But then when I married I again became consumed with trying to find my father.

With the internet my success in locating him seemed INEVITABLE.

Yet the more I tried the more disappointed I became when it didn’t happen…

Fast forward to my life now which in so many ways is idyllic… a solid marriage of 20 years this month 🙂

Two of the most happy and loving teenage boys I could ask for 🙂

A beautiful home on the forest and a lake 🙂

And my own online business that provides me plenty of time for my painting, designing and other passions and spiritual pursuits 🙂

My life feels so FULL and rich.




Recently completely out of the blue my twin (did you know I have a twin?) tells me he’s found and met with our father!

It was so unexpected and a bit of a shocker; this changes EVERYTHING.

My entire storyline, my self-image… even my family and so much more that I can’t even imagine…


But ‘Why NOW??

Why when I needed and wanted it most, when I craved this, could this not have happened-

yet now when I don’t need it- it happens??”


The Universe is the ultimate mirror reflecting our deepest truth back to us.

And it is our canvas to paint on and create whatever we WILL.


Unfortunately, we often create by default and don’t realize it because the Universe doesn’t speak English, it speaks VIBRATION.


I have had to clear A LOT to be able to receive this miracle… and it could only happen when I was a space for it.

It’s like we are always tested to get that we are INFINITE beings regardless of circumstances.

That everything we need we have or will be provided for, that or something even BETTER for the Highest Good of all.

IF we could only accept and allow that…




Remember that scene with Harrison Ford and he had to cross this huge chasm and it’s only when he ‘takes the leap of faith’ and sticks his foot out over the abyss that the invisible bridge appears!

As one mentor puts it, Spirit meets us at the point of our ACTION.

When you crave it you repel it, when you chase it you push it away…

But when you don’t need it because you know you already have it or will or it’s equivalent, you can have it all day long.


What in your life are you currently do you “NEED” that has you contracted and tight and actually not of a space for receiving it?

Love? Money? Health? Etc etc etc

Whatever you desire, or something even better is a surrender away!


with love and surprises,



Like I always say…



I’ve discovered something HUGE-

and I’m over the moon to finally share this with you!


It’s been my sweetest SECRET for the last few months testing it

on myself, my family, my private clients, corporate clients…


And everyone says the same thing-



You must check it out for yourself.

I made a new VIDEO for you all about it:


with joy,


You can order yours HERE and use the code SHAKAYA to receive a special price!


the dis-ease of Queens

Who would you rather be, a Queen or an Empress-

have you ever thought about that?


I remember once before we married Luke having an issue with me about something

and telling me ‘a Queen wouldn’t do that’ to which I replied:


‘I am not nor ever want to be a Queen- I am a Goddess, an Earth Empress!’


In my observation Queens are often overweight, under-loved, unattractive,

too serious and missing out on a world of beauty, love, joy, fun and pleasure!


But an Empress, while no less majestic and prosperous, is also powerfully feminine, sensual, wild and free living from her Spirit and grounded in her body.


It may seem like semantics, but how you see yourself is mirrored back to you!


I made a video describing the ‘disease of queens’ you can WATCH HERE.

with beauty and love,


ps To find out more about the private group program Shakaya mentioned in the video please reach out to for details. 

pps JOIN ME at this LIVE event- Patty extended the earlybird pricing!  


exciting news!!!

I have some exciting news!

I will speaking at a 3-day LIVE EVENT this Fall and YOU’RE INVITED.

My dear friend Patty Contenta whom I brought you the Sensuality Summit with 

has asked me to do a special presentation at her gorgeous live event

EYE ~ Embrace Your Essence

and I would love to see you there! 

Patty is offering an exclusive JUST FOR YOU price-

but act now, because it’s expiring next Wednesday at midnight.

* The regular investment for this amazing 3-day event is $997 

but your cost is $497 when you use the code ‘earlybird’ at checkout!

And here’s the best part…


  • BONUS #1 – WIN A COUTURE DRESS! One lucky partipant will receive a custom made dress from Yours Truly~ That’s right, someone is going to win one of my sensual, powerfully feminine dresses or gowns~ Value $1100!

  • BONUS #2 – Bring-a-friend Bonus! Buy one ticket and bring your friend for 50% off –that’s one ticket at $497 + the second ticket at only $249 (this is only available to you because you’re part of my community! Use the promo code “friend” at checkout to get the second ticket at the $249 price.)

  • BONUS #3 – Patty’s Sexy in Seconds Digital Program (another bonus available only to you because you’re part of my community! Use the promo code “bonus” to get instant access.) Remember, these bonuses expire ONE WEEK from today.

Get all the details and REGISTER HERE

with joy,

 ps I can’t wait to meet you IN PERSON and I’m over the moon excited 

to see who will WIN one of my custom-made couture gowns- JOIN US HERE!


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